Study of “no conversation between spouses in their married life” (Case study: Employees of the Ministry of Education in Tehran)

Relationships between spouses are formed during their daily interaction. It gives meaning to their common life. For understanding their interaction, we studied interaction between them who one of them is an employee of the Ministry of Education. We did it by the grounded theory as a qualitative method, depth interview as a technique, and purposeful sampling. After Coding fifteen interviews, we reached theoretical saturation. Based on the result of this research and theoretical inference causal conditions that are including: weaknesses or worry for telling: problems, personal feeling, expectations, and stubbornness, wrong time for conversation, no participatory approach, disrespect to other(wife or husband), gender inequality, not having enough skill for making conversation. Also intervening conditions like: having this idea ''all spouses make conversation in the same ways'', effecting of problems that they had in the past and talking about them for several times cause spouses couldn't make conversation. Spouses use strategies such as arguing with each other, non-consultation, arguing with their children, having stress because of prefer to be silence in some situation, having different educational methods for children, mental entanglement, make a decision without agreement with wife or husband, to need a long time to know each other, incomprehension feeling.