The Effectiveness of an Emotion-Oriented Approach on Intimacy, Communication Skills, and Feelings of Worth in Incompatible Couples

Following the growing changes and changes that have occurred in the structure of human societies, the family institution has not been deprived of these changes and in some cases, has accepted dramatic changes in its structure, so marital incompatibility. Nowadays, it has become a social issue that damages the institution of the family and gradually leads the society to a critical situation and the collapse of values. For this reason, social planners need to investigate this problem in practice, identify its causes and factors, and take action to address it. The increasing problems, marital dissatisfaction, incompatibility, the increase in the divorce rate in recent years, as well as its negative consequences, indicate the need and importance of paying attention to marital adjustment. Adaptation means consistent adaptation to change and creating a connection between oneself and the environment in a way that enables maximum self-improvement with social welfare. Adaptation is defined as a continuous process in which specific social learning experiences create psychological needs and enable the acquisition of abilities and skills through which those needs can be met. Therefore, we say that a person is adaptable when he has learned the necessary skills to communicate and interact and can effectively meet his needs. Social adjustment is a process in which a person acquires the ability to be absorbed in that group by learning the principles and customs accepted in the group or community and aligning his or her needs and wants with the group in which he or she lives. Marital incompatibility has many negative effects such as reduced intimacy, reduced marital relationships, and reduced self-esteem in the family. The prevalence of marital incompatibility has always been of interest to psychologists and is more prevalent today. The prevalence of marital incompatibility has been reported in various ways. All the reports, despite their differences, show that the level of marital incompatibility is increasing. Research has shown that the ratio of divorce to marriage is increasing in Iran. A report on marital status in the United States also found that the proportion of children in families with two parents rose from 88 percent to 68 percent. On the other hand, in recent years, helping couples to improve their marital relationships by using training and applying different treatment methods has been considered. It is necessary to help couples to solve marital problems by recognizing the factors and causes affecting marital adjustment and reducing marital conflicts. The effect of communication skills on marital relationships in married couples is very important because it can help professionals in implementing the correct training program to provide better marital communication skills to meet physical and mental needs and wants. It can help couples live happier and more satisfying lives, it can also help them resolve their differences better, and it can therefore create a strong bond for better family functioning and social well-being. Slowly Despite the effectiveness of the emotion-oriented approach in improving subjects' behaviors in various studies, few studies have examined the effectiveness of the emotion-oriented approach on intimacy, communication skills, and feelings of worth. Hence, the research gap in this area is quite obvious. Given that couple adjustment plays an important role in family stability to achieve this goal, the emotional approach can be used, so the research question is whether the emotional approach to intimacy, communication skills And is the feeling of worth effective in incompatible couples referring to counseling centers in Tehran?

The research method is experimental with a multi-group pretest-posttest design and follow-up period. The statistical population includes all incompatible couples referring to counseling centers in Tehran, whose number in 1400 was equal to 3500 people. Taking into account the existing files of incompatible couples referring to the Family Counseling Center of Tehran, 10 couples (10 men and 10 women) who referred to the Family Counseling Centers of Tehran due to marital incompatibility by sampling method in Availability of choice was divided into two groups of 5 couples (5 couples in the first experimental group and 5 couples in the control group). Criteria for inclusion in the sample are the existence of marital incompatibility, minimum cycle education, passing at least one year of married life, obtaining the consent of clients, and also the criteria for leaving the research are having a history of psychiatric disorders and participating in another treatment program and absence there were more than two sessions in treatment sessions. The individuals selected in these groups, after completing the Thompson and Walker Intimacy Questionnaire (1983), Matson (1983) Communication Skills, and Crocker et al. (2003) and Spanier (1976) Marital Adjustment Questionnaire in the experimental group under the emotion-centered approach treatment was performed and the control group remained to wait until the end of the course. Then post-test was performed for both groups and after two months follow-up was performed for all three groups. The results are analyzed by SPSS software.

The results showed that the emotion-oriented approach affects intimacy, communication skills, and feelings of worth in the subscales (family support, overtaking and competition, physical appearance, and academic competence) in maladapted couples.

The aim of this study was the effectiveness of an emotion-oriented approach to intimacy, communication skills, and feelings of worth in maladapted couples referring to counseling centers in Tehran. For this purpose, from all incompatible couples referred to counseling centers in Tehran, trained individuals and a control group were selected by the available sampling method. The results showed that the emotion-oriented approach to intimacy, communication skills, and feelings of worth in the subscales (family support, overtaking and competition, physical appearance, divine love, scientific competence, and consent from others) in incompatible couples is effective. Explaining the results of this study, it can be said that the emotion-oriented approach by controlling the person's emotions and improving the level of ability to manage the person's emotions teaches him how to react correctly in different emotional times. People who take emotion-oriented training courses know their emotions better and are prepared to be in exciting environments. In these people, emotional intelligence is also strengthened and the person chooses the best behavior and reaction from all the expected behaviors. According to the obtained results, it is suggested to use the emotion-oriented approach to improve the situation of intimacy, communication skills, and sense of worth in couples with marital incompatibility.